Even if someone isn’t your significant other anymore. I don’t care how over a girl I was, I’d have a pretty tough time if my ex started sleeping with my friend. And wouldn’t it burn you that the only reason they know each other is because of you? I don’t know how long your relationship was, but if it was of any significant time, this would be really awkward.
Sure, you say you and your ex are friends now and talk all the time.
She’s got a friend I’ve always found really attractive, and recently the friend mentioned to my ex-girlfriend that she’s interested in me too.
My ex says she’s okay with it if we go out, but a couple of my girl friends tell me that I shouldn’t even consider asking her out, no matter what my ex-girlfriend says, so I’m not sure what to do. —TM, Los Angeles, California The straight man’s perspective: Chris Kennedy I’m not a big believer in having a lot of dating rules, but I do hold true to the Golden Dating Rule—do unto significant others as you’d have done to you. Not literally—I’m not recommending fetishes—but see things from her perspective on this.
It’s no fun to become their mothers, constantly nagging them daily about what they’re doing to figure out their career. You can’t make them into the strong and motivated man that you want them to be, they have to figure it out themselves. When things get serious, sometimes his “laissez faire” is more stressful than chill.
Back in high school, there was nothing better than a tall handsome cool guy; I simply could not get enough!
Dear 4-Way, I just broke up with my girlfriend a few months ago.
Honestly, the relationship had been over for a while, so by the time the breakup actually went down, it was pretty friendly; we still talk all the time.
Just add a room full of people, like my family, and suddenly that aloof charm had my heart racing, with anxiety instead of love. Mysterious and when we were with my entire family, he was off in the corner observing as my family desperately tried to include him.Each and every one I hold near and dear to my heart, because they have shown me what I need in my life companion, and what I definitely do not want to deal with for the rest of my life.Here are some of the lessons I’ve learned along the way: Don’t be fooled by their charm and nonchalant attitudes, men who insist they are "chill" and "laid-back" can be tough nuts to crack.But don’t fool yourself into thinking there isn’t more at stake here than just asking out the friend of a friend.All you’ve said about your ex’s friend is that you find her attractive and you’re interested.It is definitely possible to get your ex back and make the relationship last, but it doesn’t just happen because you want it to. But usually, the rule is: if it didn’t work, it won’t work… To increase your chances for success, you need to arm yourself with the right information.