Me and my mates had snuck into a nightclub with the help of some dodgy ID, and I was buying a WKD blue at the bar when we got chatting.
He was absolutely gorgeous, and seemed like the coolest person I’d ever met. 'I want you as my girlfriend, 'he said, after about 15 minutes.
There's absolutely no denying that a man who is older than you is definitely more mature than the one who is either your age, or younger. Because honestly, dealing with immature guys is like taking care of a man child, and no woman's got time for that.
My lack of experience, plus the automatic power imbalance that comes from such an age difference, meant controlling and manipulating me came easily. From the ‘baby groupies’ of the 60s and 70s to the 15-year-old in the Adam Johnson court case, teenage girls are easy prey for older men who wish to feel powerful.
If a guy did this now, I’d be running in the opposite direction.
But at the time, it seemed like the most romantic thing ever.
Tell her what kind of man she should look for when she's older and tell her love is not like in the movies.
Also, tell her how beautiful and smart she is everyday because girls need to hear that, especially from their dad or some sort of male figure. Whatever you do, support her decisions and don't criticize. Only support, this doesn't mean just for boys, try to support her in other interests that you think are appropriate in hopes that she will get more focused on music lessons or sports than on the guy.